There’s this guy in my neighbourhood who apparently I find very attractive 😂 I didn’t realize that until recently, I always avoided him until one day I had to talk to him and I turned red and started smiling like an idiot.

This happened twice and both times, when I got home, I started crying… not because of what happened, but it felt as if I was losing something??

All I know about this “reaction” is that this guy isn’t my usual type, I just find him physically attractive and when I get home I cry and think about those guys I actually felt a lot for (mostly platonically) and it hurts 🤕 wtf

And today I was almost telling myself to “stay on track”??? Like thinking about the others and thinking “that’s the life you want, that’s what would make you happy” and just wishing this didn’t have such an effect on me.

  • Colorfulhipp@lemmy.worldOP
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    4 months ago

    That’s not what it said at all but good for you people. Your thought says more about the way you are: don’t read, don’t understand but just speak in the way that gets you approval.

    That’s NOT the meaning of the message, and before reading this comment I read it and totally got what it meant.

    Simply put, one person wasn’t that worried about the upvotes but making the message easier = communicating with me, not thinking about how someone could take the initial draft of a thought just to find faults in it and twist it around.

    And the other is here just for upvotes, didn’t even bother to answer my question ??

    We could find faults in anyone’s answers here, but obviously you go for what would trigger most people and then you feel happy and satisfied. Even if you had understood the message and was doing it for the right purpose, that’s not the way to go about it. And the dynamic is pretty clear, just look at people’s reactions… Sad. When something gets hype on the internet there’s something wrong with it, just a reminder. Hope this clarifies things a bit.

    If people wanted to readn and understand the whole message it is pretty clear, and clearly it was just an initial draft and clearly it could go different ways since he was just outlining his thought, “simple attraction to this, but society (…)” vs “commitment, normality, etc.”. And this outline can then be applied to the different things one could be judged for and the different things that different societies find normal.

    Don’t assume others are as “stupid” as you are. Maybe sometimes it’s you who’s not comprehending. Also he’s talking about judgment and how that is wrong, wtf with you saying he’s saying just that? HE WAS TALKING AGAINST THAT.

    SINCE LATER IN HIS POST HE TALKED ABOUT SLUT SHAMING IT’S PRETTY CLEAR HIS MESSAGE WAS NOT TO BE READ THE WAY YOU WANTED TO, CAUSE THAT’S NOT WHAT HE MEANT, THAT’S NOT THE WAY HE IS. So really shame on you for this, this to me is criminal.

    This was just sad, annoying and useless in the way it was discussed with the misunderstood party AND useless to the entire post.

    Stfu

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      4 months ago

      I love you, you understand me. I completely agree with everything you wrote. Of course there aren’t only 2 types in total. I just thought what you wrote sounded like these 2 types.

      And the answer to mine and the downvotes are exactly what I’m talking about, they are the social conditioning speaking. My views have to be dismissed without looking at what I’m actually saying, because it goes against this conditioning. No one is actually talking about your problem/issue/question anymore.

      Luckily I don’t care about downvotes/disagreement. If someone is clearly not even reading past the first sentence I don’t need to spend my energy engaging with them more, trying to work against their offendedness.