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Cake day: June 10th, 2023

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  • Your upbringing has conditioned you to feel uncomfortable in those situations, but you can untrain that response. If you think about it for a moment, what benefit is there to you having that response in such a situation? The answer is there is no benefit to you. Your sister doesn’t need protecting from kisses from her boyfriend. Just untrain that mental response to PDA, and be a happier person because of it.

    You can even take this to the extreme when you think about it. If you saw someone swimming at the beach naked, would it actually harm you in any way? It really doesn’t. You don’t need to pay attention, and you don’t need to think about it. It doesn’t interfere with your ability to get a suntan, it doesn’t interfere with your ability to build a sandcastle, it doesn’t interfere with you swimming, so enjoy yourself and just ignore what other people choose to do unless it actually harms you somehow.

    When they kiss or make a sexual joke, just think to yourself “whatever, they’re both consenting adults” and move on with your day. Eventually it won’t even matter to you.

    This is part of what maturity is, learning how to handle situations (often by just ignoring them) that either don’t affect you at all, or even get over things that impact you but that matter less than what the consequence to reacting to it. If you ever meet a Karen, they failed to learn this lesson.