They do, but sometimes their phones autocorrect to use an apostrophe, and they don’t notice right away.

Yeah, I know two Karen’s, and they are some of the sweetest, nicest people.

I read about you doing all that, so I’m going to claim 25% vicarious accomplishment for those for my weekend. This is solely for internal auditing purposes, of course.

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I think they really mean “I just don’t want to see black people, but that sounds bad, so let me try to come up with something I think sounds better.”

Do you know if you want to keep seeing them? If you do, or if you aren’t sure yet, I think you just need more info. They might have experience with a violent ex, and so they’re hyper-tuned to worry “what if this person I like suddenly becomes violent.” Talking about an ex would definitely be a trigger for a lot of violent people, so it makes sense she was worried about that topic specifically. Anyways, maybe sit them down and say something like:

“Thanks for giving me a little time to process things, so I wouldn’t say something I didn’t mean. I was surprised when you said you were afraid I might become violent, as I’ve never been violent with another person, and I don’t think my behavior is even very aggressive.” (Assuming that’s true about you, which I can’t really know). “I want to know why you were worried about that possibility, and I don’t feel like you gave me a clear answer last time we spoke. That being said, I totally understand this might be a sensitive subject for you, so I don’t want to rush you if you’re not ready to talk about it. But I like you, and I want to get to know more about you, and it will be hard for me to feel comfortable continuing to see you if I don’t know what caused you to say what you did a couple days ago.”

Or hey, maybe you aren’t the best judge of yourself. Maybe include something in there like “If you feel like I have raised my voice or acted aggressively sometimes, I would really like to know, as I’m not aware of behaving like that. I promise I will be calm and collected if you want to tell me something like that.”

I dunno, or maybe ask ChatGPT, it can probably write up something pretty good.

Oh yeah, but in summary, I think you are assuming her intentions were malicious due to your saying she’s gaslighting you, when I’m not really 100% sure that’s the case yet. I’d give her a chance to explain, but if y’all keep seeing each other, just keep an eye out for any further weirdness.

Peter: I wouldn’t say I’ve been “missing” it, Bob. 😉

I can’t image HR getting a complaint that you aren’t making small talk, and saying “That’s outrageous! We’ll demand his medical records right now!”

HR exists to keep the company from getting sued, and I think there’s a lot less risk for them to tell one employee “He doesn’t want to talk to you, deal with it.” vs demanding medical records for a non-work-role related issue.

In response to a customer support message. https://www.resetera.com/threads/to-anyone-who-is-curious-no-you-cannot-transfer-your-steam-account-via-a-will-you-can-only-take-your-games-to-your-graves.875634/

You said you were out sick for 4 weeks? Do they know why? Maybe you could spin that, say “sorry, I got some scarring in my throat and talking can make it worse, so I really need to only talk about work or I’ll be up all night in pain”. Or something like that.

Or you could try “sorry, I like working with you, and I know I’ve talked in the past, but I need to admit that I have Asperger’s/autism, and trying to make small talk is very stressful for me, so I hope you’re not offended but I feel like I’m going to burn out unless I make some changes like sticking to only work-oriented discussions from now on. Thank you for your understanding.”

Bonus points if you type that up and hand it to people, like you can’t even tell it to then directly.

I know both my answers are “lie in a way that makes you look abnormal” which you may feel like isn’t something you should have to do. Which is true. But you want to minimize them thinking you’re judging them, and they KNOW you are able to talk, so the best way I see is to make them think it’s a problem you have, not about them.

🤷‍♂️ Good luck!

I vote starvation. I think a big percent of the world will starve, with a few countries holding out. A bit later I think all those people will starve too, with only like 20 billionaires surviving. And then when THEY run out of food a few years later, I dunno, they’ll OD on drugs?

HARRY DID YOU PUT YOUR NAME IN THE GOBLET OF FIRE, YOU PIECE OF SHIT!!!

To get out of those spirals, I just remind myself that I’ve probably forgotten hundreds of things other people probably regret saying/doing, and odds are most people probably forgot mine. Even if I’m sure someone didn’t forget it, I doubt they ever think about it anymore.

But that sounds haaaaard to design…

Hey, maybe here’s an actual good use for AI, study how lots of people play strategy games, and teach a model to play at varying skill levels.

“and all your income from these calls will go to zoom”

Looks gorgeous, like the original. I’m curious if it’ll be harder than the original, being in full 3D. With the ability to freely run around everywhere, it might be easier to miss something than if you only jumped between predetermined points. Maybe not, I can’t remember if everything important in Riven was visually distinctive, or if there are things hidden in the background that are easy to overlook.

I feel like besides being a silly title, I feel like it would rub me the wrong way if I worked at that company with any other title.

Because of the implication.

But then how do you poop if no one is begging? Uhh, asking for a friend.

Ah, but as you say, people only care when they’re “going to” lay in it, meaning they’re not in the bed yet. Once you’re in bed, you pretty much never need to specify the left or right side, you can say “shit, i spilled a drink on your side!”

So, since we only care about left and right sides while we’re not in bed, I say who cares about the in-bed perspective. What matters is how it is oriented while you’re standing up and looking at it. So that’s how I’d assign left and right side.

Sorry, my reply was dumb. I don’t know what you said back, but it was probably completely justified. 😄