Been a student. Been a clerk. Been a salesperson. Been a manager. Been a teacher. Been an expatriate. Am a husband, father, and chronicle.

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  • North Americans, I’m one of you. You have to leave for a while. You gain perspective.

    Back in '07, I left. I was in Australia in '09 and some Aussies asked me, ‘what’s it like living over there?’

    The only thing I could come up with at the time was " causes neuroticism.’ It’s so much worse now that we have social media, smartphones, and a penchant for duelling forms of misinformation.

    What I learned is that there are many ways to live. There are lots of goals people have — and can have — many of them are quite modest: a safe place to live, love, and feel part of community. There are much worse daily experiences than those we hear about in the news, or see on TV, or read about it books. There is truly grinding poverty and privation that does not translate well into a novel or an article — readership is fickle. Yet, from those ashes, there is still joy, levity, and grace.

    So, we residents of the most powerful economies must see outside of our bubbles. We must see, first hand, how we are duped into believing there is only one set of goals, one North American dream, one prestige, and one centre of power. When you spend enough years away, you just might forget about homeownership, career-building, and fretting over retirement. You might find that life is about living, about doing good work, and about being with people you care to pass the time with.

    At least, that’s what 12 years outside of NA taught me.






  • 2001 is timeless.

    Political intrigue, technological advancement, piercing the unknown, all drawn on the backdrop of an innocuous, normal exploration mission.

    Until things go awry.

    As directly inspired by 2001, I’d count a bunch of modern classics: Children of Men (2006), Sunshine (2007), Passengers (2016), the Expanse (TV series), and more.

    What Kubrick did write the story with Arthur C. Clarke, slow the pace to reflect the long-haul nature of the mission — let alone the slow pace of human development — and focus on the sheer scale of progress needed to achieve such exploration. He also ensured that the conflict was truly tangible and high-stakes. Simple and human in its genesis, but devastating in its execution. Then, confronting ET intelligence as truly “other.”

    Perfect.






  • Assuming right-hand side of road driving and right-hand (anti-clockwise) directionality of travel.

    1. Look left. Clear? Proceed. Not clear? Yield.
    2. When safe to do so, enter the roundabout. Locate your exit.
    3. Exit the roundabout.

    Corollary: never stop in a roundabout. Go around more than once if you have to, but don’t stop.

    I assume roundabouts in Australia and England and UK colonies that drive on the left, all instructions are direction-opposite.

    Assuming left-hand side of road driving and left-hand (clockwise) directionality of travel.

    1. Look right. Clear? Proceed. Not clear? Yield.
    2. When safe to do so, enter the roundabout. Locate your exit.
    3. Exit the roundabout.

    Corollary: never stop in a roundabout. Go around more than once if you have to, but don’t stop.




  • Yes. But, also, it’s not.

    Let me explain.

    The act itself is an exercise in either selfishness, selflessness, or synchronicity. Tuning into another person while still enjoying your own experience can be very challenging.

    Then, there are trust issues. What are your sexual histories? What are your desires or qualms? How will your relationship look after? What if one of you doesn’t like what the other did, said, smelled like, etc.?

    Finally, there’s the social element. Are you exclusive? Are you ok with being exclusive? What do you friends and family think of your sexual partner(s)? Does that matter to you? Are you going to have children? Does that matter to you?

    Selfishness is great for the sex act, but you may not have sex often. I think it’s the road to truly being an incel.

    Selflessness is a great way to get hurt often, but you’ll probably have lots of sex. Some sex addicts turn themselves over to their addiction.

    The hard work is in developing a relationship with yourself, your needs, your partner(s), and their needs. Honesty, clarity, and uncomfortable conversations are all a part of the process.

    When you find someone to experiment with, and there is ENTHUSIASTIC consent, be sure to be clear about what you’re agreeing to. And, for universe’s sake, foreplay is for everyone. Use protection, lubricate appropriately, and check in regularly whether everyone is still having a good time.

    Then, yes. It can be mind-blowingly great.

    Remember, you can do everything right and still not end up having the sex. Live to try another day.