I wouldn’t dare defile Douglas Adam’s memory by not mentioning that you should keep a towel with you at all times, but my second contender is a surprisingly short three-parter:

  1. never lie.
  2. never tell the whole truth.
  3. never pass up a chance to use a real bathroom.
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    7 months ago

    Learn to recognize when you’re responding defensively to a statement made by those around you.

    -There wrong about me, they're the problem
    
    - I'm fine i don't bed to listen to that
    
    - etc...
    

    Think about it for a few days, once you’re over the initial emotional reaction. Be critical of your own response and contemplate the motivation for the statement

    - is it out of care for you or manipulation
    
    - Is it honest or malicious? 
    
    - Are they expressing a need?
    

    That’s when you have the greatest opportunity to grow as a person and build deeper relationships. It’s also when you have an opportunity to break your mindset and get out of malicious ones.