Excuse my ignorance im just curious.
Is it really though?
Hard to moderate. Brings influencers and bots. Doesn’t contribute anything that can’t be easily found elsewhere.
i hadnt really thought of it until now, and was kind of expecting lemmy/kbin to get infected with porn, but you state some great reasons. i want to be open that i have used porn subs in the past, and i think that porn should 100% be legal. every adult should have the right to express themselves as long as they are not infringing on someone else’s rights or safety.
before onlyfans, /r/gonewild was actually pretty appealing. once the amateur porn scene took off, reddit porn subs became advertisements (“check the comments for my onlyfans 😜🍑”) and spam bots reposting other people’s porn. i really would prefer to avoid that. if someone wants porn, they can go back to reddit or whatever porn dedicated site there is.
btw, i knew a girl who ran one of her own onlyfans-type things. i know it’s annecdotal so my one experience isn’t representative, but she ruined it for me. that girl was complete trash. she still lived with her parents at 24 years old with no ambition other than to live off of others. she proudly stated this. she didn’t work. she had multiple sugar daddies that would financially support her while she would insult them and her customers behind their backs openly to anyone that would listen to her garbage. she had multiple separate ig accounts, each dedicated to a sugar daddy. she would then friend her real friends to show off the “losers” that would support her. the rest of her sisters, while not as bad, were near the same level of toxicity: highly predatory, psychopathically manipulative, and vindictive af. they shared the same social circle that was all the same crap. i fully expect to see at least one of them in the news or jail blotter eventually. i ended up blocking them all on all avenues of communication and recorded me on video telling them that they arent allowed on my property. i also created a highly detailed journal of our interactions, recorded conversations, and kept evidence in case they ever felt like attacking me for setting boundaries.
anyway, in my experience, the persona we see them display on the internet is fake. they’re not some horny person just dying for some internet stranger to hook up with. theyre not a victim of the circumstances theyre trying to escape. they don’t get turned on by being “slutty” just for you. they get turned on by the power to manipulate others at other’s expense. that their real kink: abuse. it becomes disgusting.
again, i know not all online sex workers are this way, and there are certainly the fantastical pornstars and couple’s that aren’t terrible people but some definitely are horrible and we dont actually know which one is which because the public gets a false presentation of who they really are.
thanks for attending my ted talk. ill have a spicy chicken sandwich pls.
Because we dont want to moderate porn, simple as that. Other instances are free to do this differently.
Go set up your own instance and never raise this subject here again
Not sure why your getting downvoted. That’s the beauty of the fediverse lol
I think its the “never raise this subject here again” Comes off as a bit aggressive.
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Porn should be illegal. It destroys the meaning of sex. Porn is packed with human trafficking and exploitation. Porn wrecks one’s brain.
I pray that porn becomes illegal.
while i don’t necessarily disagree that porn can destroy the meaning of sex and wreck one’s brain, i really would prefer the state stay out of my business. i think a better approach would be to provide education on how porn affects us and avenues to seek help should someone fall into an addiction. however, getting the state involved on what people can and cannot say is too much control for my comfort.
I understand your POV but porn is as bad as hard drugs (because it is). We clearly can’t regulate it given how many children get sucked into it. So letting government block this isn’t the same as government overstepping into other spheres of freedom.
Excessive freedom that hurts our species isn’t “freedom” but a hidden addictive trap that hurts us on a multi-generational level.
“Porn is as bad as drugs” is a privileged opinion of someone who’s never lost anyone to addiction.
Porn destroys families which in turn creates broken children that turn to drugs, including porn.
Suicide rate is high with men and their depression is fraught with addictions including porn.
You know what causes even more addiction to drugs than porn does? Fucking drugs do.
You know what destroys orders of magnitude more families than porn? Surprise! It’s fucking drugs, again.
Addiction requires a cage being attempted to be escaped. Porn and drugs are similar in the sense of trying to escape some sense of personal hardship. Both porn and drugs are an effect, not the cause.
The fact that you use prayer for a social problem already tells me how wrecked your brain is.
