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  • i would also like to like lemmy.

    Unfortunately it’s userbase seems to have a fairly significant infection of stupidity. (also the lemmy platform is just, underbaked, in general)

    But i’m starting to think my standards of not being completely uneducated and spouting literal bullshit on things, is too high for most of the population…

    I think i just have a problem with all of humanity, to be honest.





  • it’s all encrypted, and a darknet, so unless you’re routing through exit nodes, or you host an exit node, that information isn’t publicly accessible.

    the other problem here is the “illegal contents” problem, if UPS accidentally ships a human head in the mail, is that the fault of the UPS? If someone mails a bomb to someone else, is that also the fault of UPS?

    Ultimately, there is little to no reasoning as to why you should be capable of getting into trouble, unless you’re storing it, and it’s a very very strict law. But it’s a router, so it shouldn’t be storing anything.











  • I’m not trans but don’t understand why I have to accept being called cis.

    Cis is literally just a root term meaning “not trans” I.E. "identifies with gender assigned at birth. I.E. full correlation between sex and gender, biologically (i’m using the interpretation that in trans people, there is a biological desync somewhere along the line, separating physical sex, and mental sex, causing the “trans-ness” to exist, you probably shouldn’t disagree with me, because the research and lived experience behind this stuff supports it)

    It’s like me talking about your ethnicity. There is literally nothing you can do to have control over it, it’s a fully observed concept, there is no “applied” conceptualization of the term cis. Just like there is no active conceptualization of the term “human”

    My gaming friend who’s m-f is a female now, sure, whatever works for her. But why must I suddenly have a name for something I am. I didn’t choose any of this?

    yeah, none of us did, i didn’t fucking want to be born, i didn’t decide to exist, and even if i did, it wasn’t here on this hell hole of a planet. Who gives a shit that people call you cis, because you are literally, objectively cis. You are arguing the most fundamental aspects of philosophy here. You might as well engage in nihilism if this hurts your soul.

    Is it actually made to anoy me, it doesn’t.

    no, it’s not. It’s not supposed to. It’s a mechanism for classifying your existence in a broader, undefined society, that is experiencing challenges of definition more broadly across the whole of the field this term specifically resides in. In fact, healthcare in general, is experiencing a minor revolution.

    if you’re curious about why they exist, have a look into social gender expression, or gender identity more broadly, modern or historical (historical being 1950’s) hell you can even go into ancient human history and see the same thing, though it’s often different from how it is now. There were still clear distinctions in how things worked.

    Things change, as they always have, and will continue to change, Change is good, it signals technological evolution, and social progress. There is nothing inherently bad about change. I mean sure there’s bad change. Like hitler, for example. But if hitler didn’t exist, there is no guarantee that we wouldn’t still be fighting like the british were during the revolutionary war.

    What I do know is that the trans community is, in many cases, so unrelentingly hostile towards cis, because many don’t understand. Even against trans people, some communities create so many rules. My friend had trouble trying to fit in because she wasn’t trans enough for her discord group. Wtf?

    in defense of the internet, you are asking a pretty stupid question. It’s like being mad when someone refers to you by your proper honorific title. It’s just, fucking weird.

    and infighting in the queer community is a thing, it’s a big problem as of late, although that’s a different story and nobody really knows how to classify it or what to do about it at this moment.

    And I think alot of cis people hate being called that because it’s new and it feels aggressive.

    yeah, you’re correct about it being new, people are apprehensive to change. It’s normal, doesn’t mean you need to express it though. Also, it likely feels aggressive to you because you haven’t been classified before in your life time, to this degree at least. Chances are, you don’t like it now, even though you’ve probably done the same thing to other people, and you’ve almost certainly seen this done to other people throughout your life, aware or not. Gay people were considered mentally ill up until the 70’s and it was only really more normalized in the 90’s.

    BTW, i recommend you do some reading on the Schizoid personality disorder, and do some thinking about how it feels to be classified. It’s better than being socially shunned, consciously or not.

    If you feel like your life is crumbling because you’re being called cis, you might want to think back to what red lining was like, or what the pushback against the gays was like, or what it was like being japanese in the US shortly after pearl harbor, or being muslim in the US any time after 9/11, or jewish, just in general. Or like a minority in an oppressive state/regime.

    To sum it up here, you’re complaining about being called cis. It’s not a slur, it’s not an insult, it’s not degrading, it’s just a classification term. And this is apparently, the most important problem in your life right this moment, judging by the fact that you left a comment about it. You’re not worried about putting food on the table, or being sane, or fitting in with society, or being able to function within it, putting gas in your car, getting to work, having work, being able to do your job, and being able to live in general.

    It’s a rather privileged problem to have, and you should think about how good your life is, rather than how bad it is.


  • personally i don’t understand it on a personal level, and i don’t find it appealing in media either, as its just an extension of that. And i prefer genuine human interactions to hee hee hoo hoo sex scene, look these characters are intimate and close, because more often than not, it’s just shitty writing unfortunately.

    I’m also gross and I think if I can’t put out, no one is willing to hang out with me. I feel like if I at least put out I’d have something to offer

    personally i just operate under a very specific pretense, and either inform people of it, or fuck with them because they aren’t expecting it. I have oddly specific and weird standards for a “prospective partner” so it’s not really something i think about or actively worry about, it’ll either happen or not, and i’ll be perfectly happy either way lol.

    friends are weird though. I like having acquaintances more than friends, i think. I’m not sure that’s related to being ace, or some flavored autism bit, or perhaps something spicier, but it’s definitely something. Friendships are hard bro.


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    4 months ago

    “biden crime family” is perfectly acceptable to say

    but comparing trump to hitler? Nah completely and morally off the table, ignore the fact that we’re literally calling the biden family a fucking mafia. And when we do unironically say it, it’s also satire, so you can’t complain.