Me. I should sweat into bottles.

Women being intimate openly remains more socially acceptable than men doing it, at least presumed heterosexual men.

I have noticed a shift in the last five years and more of the (heterosexual) men in my social circles have openly hugged me more enthusiastically than they used to.

I have become more comfortable being affectionate in public in general, but that’s about becoming more comfortable with myself, rather than a matter of what’s assumed to be socially acceptable of the various genders. I’m definitely falling into the category of life’s too short and I’ll be dead sooner than I’d like to admit, so here I am, motherfuckers. Deal with it.

Declaring bankruptcy on a five-figure loan. I knew what I was getting into and I rolled snake-eyes.

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There is an emerging field of research that reframes addiction as a reasonable reaction to traumatic conditions. This doesn’t explain all addiction, but it seems to explain a large amount of it. We are learning how complex a condition addiction can be and that makes it easier to feel compassion for these folks.

I lived for three months in Mazatlán. I get it.

I don’t know if anyone else has this problem but I have a really pacific issue.

The word you want here is “specific”. 👍

I would like to add this: I’m pretty articulate in English, and even though I speak French quite well, I sometimes feel like a small child when I try to speak it with my francophone friends, which is why I shy away from that. I feel like I barely know how to express myself and, since I find that so easy in English, it frightens me to struggle so much with it.

I say all this to let you know that you’re not alone and that practice is, indeed, a path to success. It might not be what you need, but it’s worth trying.

Where can you practise speaking that you feel safe? Where you can expect not to be judged nor ridiculed?

A hopeful path towards peace for people who struggle with stress at their job.

“Infamous” exaggerates, but I find this amusing: we had a delightful chant for our sports teams.

COCKSUCKER! MOTHERFUCKER! EAT A BAG OF SHIT! CENTRAL, CENTRAL, HIT! HIT! HIT!

I’ve tried to forget that and I can’t. I wonder where they got it from.

Alternatively, use fc 371 to open the command in an editor and take your time figuring out how you might want to change it.

Ooh! It’s a Silvia! It’s backwards, but it’s a Silvia.

I love my Silvia, but I use Pop!

Oh, and… https://feddit.nu/comment/11221082 …I have and use an Aeropress.

What kind of “better” do you have in mind to aim for here? Why do you want that?

There’s a certain amount of Gambler’s Fallacy in this, too: I’ll keep going, because it’s going to turn around.

“I’m not interested. Please leave me alone.”

Would bookmark folders suffice for organizing?

Or go retro and have a tree of bookmarks as an unordered list, with the top level of the tree as the folders or categories.

I see. Thanks for answering. I can absolutely understand feeling confused when you don’t understand your own reaction/behavior.

Often, this kind of intuitive reaction comes from some conditioning from your childhood. Somebody taught you “the right way to be” or “the right way to think” and even though you don’t need that any more, you’ve lived with it for such a long time that you’re following it without realizing that that’s what’s happening.

Maybe that’s already enough for you to identify the cause: can you hear a voice from your past when you start crying? Can you already identify a person who might have taught you why you should be or must not be attracted to this kind of guy? Either you’re feeling something you were taught not to or not feelings something that they expect you to.

If you can’t put your finger on it, then you might need to spend some time just letting your mind wander about it. Who taught me to want this kind of guy? Who taught me never to want this kind of guy? It might take time, but an idea or a memory might suddenly come to you, just by contemplating these questions.

If that doesn’t work, then you might need to talk the question through with someone, such as a trusted friend or even a therapist. Sometimes having another person around when you think about this makes me say things out loud that I find easy to push away when I’m alone.

And, of course, all this advice is based on the idea that you’re confused by how you’re reacting, and that understanding your reaction is important to you. Otherwise, it might be a giant waste of energy. That’s why I asked.

Peace.

Why do you wish that this didn’t have such an effect on you? I wonder less about your reaction and more about the story you’re telling yourself about that reaction, such as “it’s not OK for me to react this way”.

Would Ward you say Poe is cunning, and likes ham?

Fixed!

What is the relationship between “they are competing with me” and “I feel like I don’t deserve any of the success that I’ve worked very hard on”?