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  • Not the other guy but I learn a lot of high quality information of YouTube. The golden rule for me is longer-form video is generally higher quality. People that know what they’re talking about typically aren’t going to explain complex things in 30 seconds, or at least not to the depth you should understand it.

    Aside from that, I look for people with actual qualifications first. Example, I love psychology so I will look for psychologists, licensed professional counselors, and so on. I’ll even listen to life coaches, but more selectively.

    The lower on the “chain” they are, the more I will do “spot checks” on information and see if they know what they’re talking about (ESPECIALLY if they’re making big or new claims about something). For that I’ll look into peer-reviewed studies and such for that.

    Once you get a small knowledge base it’s a little easier to continue. Talk something you have a clue about, and watch a video with that topic from another content creator.

    Do all of this for a while and you’ll find what you need to.




  • I’m not going to debate an amateur (as an amateur to be fair) about something that already has a ruling. In 2008, DC v. Heller ruled that the ownership of firearms included the purpose of self defense independent of anything to do with a militia. Link

    That said, the federalist paper you linked made a great case for a militia but did not talk about the People’s right to bear arms. It was also written 4 whole years before the 2nd amendment was ratified so using as an interpretation tool is not adequate. Similarly, it would make sense to me that if firearm bans were common throughout the 1700s, that in 1792 they would pass an amendment to counter that if they didn’t like it…

    I don’t have in-depth knowledge about the 14th amendment and I don’t have time to look right now so I’ll ask… what/how does the 14th amendment have/do that implies an amendment which specifically states “The People” (a protected term, such as in "We The People), did not apply to The People? Federal or not, the meaning is the same. Unless I’m missing something.
















  • Jumping in, I also have a lot of BPD experience (example, a marriage of well over 10 years).

    This is very BPD-adjacent. I’m not saying OP’s gf has it per se, because there is no way we can know from here, but this is definitely on brand.

    If you read between the lines, the social conversation could written as this:

    “Heading home, I need support”

    “I’ll support”

    <Doesn’t support>

    <She feels abandoned, fight or flight kicks in and it turns her attachment-avoidant, results in silent treatment>

    <OP gives space, which is interpreted as further abandonment>

    <OPGF can’t take it anymore, and asks questions that feel like they’re out of left field because in fight-or-flight kicks in, clear thought is nearly impossible>

    <OP finally gives reassurance that he didn’t abandon her>

    <Normalcy continues>

    RyanLiu@lemmy.world read through this comment chain, therapy is the answer here.