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Cake day: June 11th, 2023

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  • @Subject6051

    My family put us to the church as kids as little as needed to prove that they exposed us to it. I thank them for that minimal exposure because I’ve always felt agnostic (of course, that was verbalized as atheism as a kid). My mom was raised German christian, my dad was raised Quaker.

    I think that the most meaningful lessons I learned about religion were from my father (who never once mentioned god, Jesus or the church).

    My father’s religion was one of acceptance of all others, refusal of indoctrination to any structured religion and an absolute knowledge that men (and women) make their faith and their covenant to each other, not to a church. Thanks, dad!



  • @zinklog

    Listen

    There is only one way to make people talk more than they care to. Listen. Listen with hungry earnest attention to every word. In the intensity of your attention, make little nods of agreement, little sounds of approval. You can’t fake it. You have to really listen. In a posture of gratitude. And it is such a rare and startling experience for them, such a boon to ego, such a gratification of self, to find a genuine listener, that they want to prolong the experience. And the only way to do that is to keep talking. A good listener is far more rare than an adequate lover.

    -Travis McGee
    from Nightmare in Pink
    by John D. McDonald