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    7 months ago

    What are your thoughts on polyamory?

    If they are polyamorous, it’s a no. If they have been polyamorous before but say they’re looking for a monogamous relationship this time, also no. If they use the term “ethical non-monogamy” in a positive way, even if they claim they’re monogamous, straight in the fucking bin.










  • There is an often reposted study that shows people who are worse at video games are more likely to harass women. Though these are some issues with the study and it’s scope, this more or less matches my experience. However, this is usually transformed via a game of telephone into suggesting higher skilled players are less misogynistic.

    I have played at the top level of multiple games over different genres and it is incredibly misogynistic up there. The key difference is most of the nerds up there are less likely express it so obviously and publicly. In a lot of cases this is purely about self-preservation, teams in competitive games will be collectively penalized so there is a degree of self-policing (nobody wants to have their team disqualified with all that money on the line) and in PvE games there is usually a great deal of time (and lets be real, often money) invested in an account people don’t want to lose.

    It’s gotten a lot better since the “tits or gtfo” and “there are no women on the internet” days, but the last time I was in these circles was only during COVID and it was still wildly misogynistic behind closed doors.







  • Reddit feels like a weirdly dead place. Depending on the sub, there can be a lot of posts and comments but it’s very hard to engage with. You need to comment early and what conversation there is decays very early. A lot of it is fake too, with bots stealing comments to repost.

    It’s a little bit better on smaller subs, but Reddit has a way of funneling everything into a larger subs if there is one for a topic, so outside of niche topics they tend to be ghost towns.

    Lemmy is more like a small, weird forum. It’s hardly perfect but at least it doesn’t feel like a bunch of chat bots talking to each other.