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Are you the same person that’s been arguing with your husband about Joe Rogan stuff?

Just as a fellow woman, I’m a bit worried for you because there are two possibilities in my mind for how he’s become so convinced of these beliefs.

1. He’s been indoctrinated into some right wing “beliefs” which are generally not grounded in fact and are instead grounded in “belief” which makes them very difficult to argue.

2. He’s experiencing a bout of some kind of mental illness (Ie. Something with paranoia as a symptom, or a kind of OCD, which I say this as a partner of someone with OCD). Some beliefs can creep in and get stuck VERY FIRMLY and again, these are completely resistant to logic.

I realize that probably seems like a giant leap from “how do I prove soy isn’t bad for you” but if you find what you’re looking for here. Like, if you find all the sources for scientific articles and such that back up your completely reasonable argument at soy is indeed food, and he still cannot see your argument as valid, I think you might have a larger problem.

I was going to say men have more testosterone, testosterone makes you horny, horny people want porn. Badabing Badaboom

I HATE Lost Boy by Ruth G.

I don’t know if I fully understand why but I’m pretty sure it’s a lyrical issue. Like something about the rhyme scheme or flow of lines just gives me really intense “I’m in 4th grade and writing my first poem ever” vibes.

The music itself probably also bothers me but I don’t know music theory well enough to pinpoint why. Musically does it also sound like someones very first attempt at song writing? Or does it sound better than that which then makes the terrible lyrics really stand out?

Yeah, within the next two weeks for sure. Lolol

Payroll admin so… if you hadn’t specified that’s it was just within my industry I think the whole world would come to a standstill by Friday. Lol.

I’ve written a poem, and a couple stories/ novel length things and I’d say I’m happy with all of them.

The poem I look back on and think it’s a bit pretentious but it’s a poem and I think all poetry suffers from a bit of “I have the best words” type pretentiousness. It’s deeply meaningful to me and perfectly captures the snapshot of the moment I wrote it so overall I’m happy it exists even if only me and one other person have ever really experienced it.

Story wise, I have a couple of fanfics I’m varying levels of proud of. There are two unfinished ones for which I’m reserving judgement, two I’m exceedingly happy with and then there’s six or seven more that I’m like “yeah, those may not have been great but they were definitely good”

The one unfinished project is a trilogy I’m two books into and I think this project will either be my Magnum Opus or a gargantuan effort for little pay off but I won’t know the answer for another year or two.

Luckily, I enjoy the actual writing part so whether I’m happy with it as a whole doesn’t really matter right now but I hope it turns out to be something I’m proud of. If anything, I’ll have to admire the effort I’ve put in but I hope I can also admire the finished product at the end.

I mean, you really are in a tough spot because all these emotions around this desire for connection: the want, pain, grief, anger, sadness are all the ways in which your body/ brain are screaming “I need this” so I can see how the obvious solution would be “I just have to stop wanting it” so that I can make the screaming stop

but I think what the original comment (and potentially some other comments) are saying is that you maybe have to turn toward the, listen to it, honor it (in a practical sense maybe get therapy or find other social services to try and meet the need in the interim) and then tell yourself that you are going to get your body/ brain what it needs, you’re just going to do in a different way. You’re going to work on things that matter to you, and move forward down that path, instead of the one you are currently on.

It’s not easy to listen though. Listening means facing a lot of the places that fear comes from. It’s all just very hard and I sincerely hope you find what you’re looking for.

I love this response.

I think a lot of people view the search for a soul mate as a quest to find the person that’s going to love them as deeply and unequivocally as they love themselves but neither of those goals are really… the thing you should be striving for.

I’m married and I don’t think my husband loves me as much as he loves himself (which might sound sad) but I don’t want him to love me the same way he loves himself. I want him to love me as his partner, as someone who is working alongside him to achieve what we mutually hope to achieve and the things we individually want to achieve.

There’s a reason that bonds develop during shared experiences. Love comes from doing something with someone, a partnership comes about when you want to do a lot of things with someone. You can have so many meaningful connections working with other humans on things that mean something to you.

I hope OP can find a path forward where they pursue the things that matter to them and can find connection (romantic or otherwise) in the shared experience that comes from their pursuit.

I don’t know what the best system would be but is the phrase something that makes sense? Like, if the phrase was “there is no god here” and you had “t__ is no god here” there aren’t that many words that fit.

Also do you have an unlimited number of guesses or will it lock you out at some point?

What?

Lady here and I can only really chime in with “feet don’t do anything for me”

Actually, for my work, people send me pictures of reciepts for reimbursement and I got a batch of like 15 with one image that just had this cracked skin, mangled nail image of a big toe (next to a reciept) that left me a just a little more “decidedly not into feet” than I was prior to seeing that image.