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Cake day: September 12th, 2023

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  • i think it is a fine way to accept death. to be fair, that emotional resilience and adaptability is astounding.

    but, since this matter is just not your own, i do hope you talk and work things out with your husband and find a cormon ground of acceptance.

    for me, i would have a moment of grief and at least offer a small memory to the child (these are financially hard times). i am not sure how long i can recover from grief but i think it is for a good cause.





  • Obligatory: “YOLO”, it is true we only live once – so make it count.

    “Big boys/girls don’t cry”

    This is some archaic-level advice similar to “pull up your bootstraps” that most people may have these already ingrained as part of growing up. It is fine to cry and show others [you trust] your feelings, no matter how old you are. More importantly, the better advice is to “take care of your physical, emotional, and mental well-being” and “be kind to yourself”.